Alice

Alice

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Sunday Haiku For You




IT'S YOUR FIRST CHRISTMAS,
AND THERE YOU ARE WITH DADDY.
STRINGING LIGHTS OUTSIDE.


LOVE YOU,
GRAMPA

HO, HO, HO!

Friday, November 25, 2011

Making Memories

Sweet Alice,

You have spent the last several days "making memories" with Mimi and Big Ed.

I am happy for them. They don't have as easy an access to you as Grampa and Lala.

So how good of your mother and daddy to make that long trip for you as well as for them!

When you get a little older you might complain about that long drive.

When you find yourself doing that you remember what Grampa says here.

Making memories with people who love you and with people you love is always worth the long journey.

There will come a day Alice when all you have about that journey is "the memories you have made".

And you will just smile, just remembering when you and mother and daddy used to take that long trip to Mimi's and Big Ed's.

And you will be thankful you did!

Love,
Grampa

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Sunday (Thanksgiving) Haiku For You




Pansies in the pots,
Turkeys screaming everywhere!
Giving thanks for you!

Love,
Grampa

Thursday, November 17, 2011

COMPARING






Sweet Alice,
Grampa and Lala had such a wonderful time with you last weekend at your great Uncle B ill’s and Aunt Michelle’s lake house. It was really neat to watch you and your cousin Caroline interact with one another (sorry about the bop on the head) but more than Caroline I think you enjoyed Caroline’s dog Briley. Your eyes just lit up each time you saw that old yellow lab. Maybe someday you will have a dog like that.
Anyway, it was really good to see you and Caroline together and to see how different you were and how alike you were. Of course, as adults, we can fall into the trap of who is doing what and when and all kinds of other things..on and on…Comparing, Comparing.
All the while you two beautiful human being are just doing what you do, being who you are, not comparing anything,
the beauty of seeing with unconditioned eyes, “kingdom of God eyes”, “Nirvana”.

Your momma and I had a talk about that and just how unhealthy comparing is and how easy it is as parents and grandparents to fall into the trap of comparing kids.
And then I ran across an article that spoke to the very thing we were talking about and I sent it to your momma and to your aunt Katie.
Your momma read the article and wrote me back, saying some very wise words that I want to share with you now (with her permission).
She states:
…”very well put (commenting on the article) and especially good wisdom for us mommas. Someone told me when Alice was first born, “COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY.”…that has stuck with me. I have tried very hard not to let other’s judgment or comparisons of Alice rob me of my pure delight in her being…”
What wise words from your momma.
Alice,
May we all delight in your being,
And may you learn to delight in your being
Delighting in just who you are!
There really is nothing to compare you to!
Love,
Grampa
PS
Momma is not a big dog fan but see if you can get her to read you Old Yellowmaybe that will convert her.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

The Amazing Alice






AMAZING ALICE,

Last week I noted your ability to crawl. This 

week I get a video from your momma and 

daddy and it seems they have enrolled you in 

a yoga class, well, not really but you seem to be trying to stand up!

What is the deal here? You are only a little over five months old.

You are not old enough to be doing these feats.

Please promise grampa you are not going to run off and join the circus because of your amazing acts!
You are not old enough!

Speaking of “you are not old enough”, you will 

probably hear this line a lot in the next, oh, let’s say fifteen to sixteen years.

That is not just a line we parents and grandparents use because we have no other answers.

Alice there will be things you will want to do 

but you really will not be old enough to do 

them. And you may not understand it at the 

time because you just won’t be old enough to understand.

This is when you must trust the wisdom and love of those elders around you.

There will be those who are your same age doing things your parents will not let you do. 

That will most probably mean that your parents really care about you. 


It may not feel like it at the time but when you are older, I promise you will understand and appreciate it.

Some things have nothing to do with age but many do. Some things depend on just how old you are emotionally.

Well, I could ramble on about all the dynamics of this “you are not old enough” thing but I won’t.

Just trust what grampa is saying here.

And when you are older, you will understand.

In the mean time you just keep trying to crawl and stand up…no age limit on that one…just depends on your efforts.


Love,
Grampa

Friday, November 4, 2011

Beginnings and Endings





So Alice, I see you can crawl! 

Well, I knew you were not going to just lie there on your back or just keep rolling over forever. I knew that time in your life would end and things would change.

Things are always changing, and so, it was time for you to change your mode of mobility.

Nothing is permanent Alice. 

It seems things are always changing. Beginning and ending are happening around us every day.
It seems to be the nature of this reality we live in.

Even we begin and end in this reality Alice.

But beginning and ending are not always consistent.

Some people begin to crawl at nine months and some people (like you) begin to crawl at five months.

We don't always know when something will begin or when    something will end.

And here’s a tough one but I share it with you because I love you.
Some people end after a long time and some people end after a very short time.

I was reminded of this today Alice, when I watched a 30 year old patient of ours die.

By the time you are able to read this in an “understanding” kind of way, it will be alright for me to have had this difficult conversation with you.
Grampa believes it is important.

There will be people in your life Alice who will end, who will die and hopefully, when that happens, those persons will have lived a long time. But the point is they will die.

One day Grampa will end, Grampa will die.
That will hurt, that will be sad but that will not be the end of the world. That will be just one of those endings.

Beginnings and endings…they happen every day!
So do we go about our lives fearful because things begin and end?

Hopefully, because we have thought about this beginning and ending thing, we go about living our lives with great gratitude for each and every day, each and every moment.


Hopefully, because we have thought about this beginning and ending, we go about our lives doing the things that matter – love, family, relationships – 



with great Intention and with very great Attention.


Beginning and ending,


Gaining and losing,


Living and dying,


All part of this wonderful life you have Alice...


So go live it with great intention and great attention!


Love,


Grampa